is a great way to bring children up in the nurture and admonition of
the Lord. But it won't necessarily produce all the
results we wish to see.
To start with, home Schooling is not a guarantee that
our children will grow up to be Christian. They are just as
likely to be reprobates whether they are home schooled or educated in the
public school. Every Primitive Baptist understands this
based on the doctrine of Election and Predestination. (If you
are unfamiliar with this doctrine please read "Unconditional Election"
in Doctrine and Practice.)
Too many Christians assume that a home based
education will be the catalyst which brings their children to
Christ. We must remember, "The wind bloweth where it listeth,
and thou hearest the sound thereof, but canst not tell whence it
cometh, and whither it goeth: so is every one that is born of the
Spirit, John 3:8. No matter what, it is the Holy Spirit which
brings forth the new birth.
Home Schooling is not a guarantee that your
children will be perfect nor is it a guarantee that you won't have
trouble or that they won't rebel. But home schooling is a
means to help prevent rebellion and the negative attitudes that may
develop from prolonged exposure to ungodly influences in the public
school system. The scripture says that "a child left to
himself bringeth his mother to shame," Proverbs 29:15. This
happens all to often when children are left to fend for themselves
against the tide of worldly peers at school.
Home Schooling allows the parents to have much
more control over the both the influences in their children's lives
and the teaching they receive during their education. It
provides an opportunity to give much more guidance and direction to
the path their children will take. However, it is possible for
parents to be too protective. Just as the Lord allows our
faith to be tried to see whether we stand or fall, so also must
opportunities be given to our children to see how they handle
themselves in the world. The fact is, one day our children
will no longer be under our supervision and they will have to stand
on their own against the ways of the world.
Overprotective parenting, especially with
teenage boys, may not allow our children to develop their own
self-control mechanisms because their control is entirely dependent
upon yours. This is not to suggest that we should throw caution
to the wind and let our children do all that they please for that
would be a grave mistake. However, it is not always a bad
thing for children to be allowed to fall. If handled in a good
way, they will remember that the scrapes, cuts and bruises from a
fall are painful and they will learn on their own to avoid those
negative behaviors which lead to such pain.
There is another pitfall associated with Christian educated
children. A child who grows up in a very disciplined
environment usually has little sympathy for those who don't.
Consequently, Christian educated children have a tendency to become arrogant about their
knowledge and proud of their self-righteousness. When you have had few
opportunities to sin in life, its very easy for our self-righteous
natures to look down on those who are sinning. Unfortunately,
this view of one's self is often reinforced (albeit unconsciously)
by the parents. A proper understanding and teaching of
DEPRAVITY is of utmost importance in the home of every family.
Just because we or our children may be better behaved than others,
apart from Christ we are no better than the worst reprobate.
All our righteousness is but filthy rags before God,
Isaiah 64:6. Even when we have been saved by Jesus Christ,
all we can say is, "by the grace of God I am what I am: and his
grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured
more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which
was with me,
1 Corinthians 15:10.
Elder James Taylor